Ten Women I Have Been Warned Against Becoming:
1. The Girl Who Takes Up Too Much Space, always, her shoulders too wide in stairwells, her hips too big in doorways, her voice too loud in classes. This woman does not understand the art of crumbling, of curling herself tight like the spiral of a fern, soft, delicate, unwilling to reach out the ivy of her fingers to grasp onto what should rightfully be hers. This is a beast, an elephant, a moving mountain and she is capable of flattening you, she is capable of ruining you, she is capable of making you feel as small and insignificant in her life as she is supposed to be. You are this woman’s footnote to history, you are her side note in song lyrics, you are constantly interrupted by her with a witty joke you wish you thought of. I asked what the problem was with being a steamroller instead of a sunflower and I was laughed down.
2. The Beautiful One, the long hair or the slim waist or the pretty eyes or the lips like bowstrings. This woman looks good in everything because she’s confident in whatever you put her in. She’ll cut her hair short on you no matter how you like it, she’ll wear high heels and step on your opinions, she’ll look hot as hell no matter what size she is. See, the reason you can’t trust her is because women like this don’t need your permission, they’ll do as they please and get away with it. They’ll say no to you, over and over. Teach your daughters that beautiful means dangerous, teach them to distrust women who love themselves. Equate beautiful with vapid, equate pretty with stupid, take their power from them. Say they’re vain for their makeup, refuse to see them without it. These women are snakes, they are serpents. I said maybe the problem lies with you being unable to control yourself and was told to get off my pedestal.
3. A Bitch. Women are supposed to be ladies in the street but will tear skin under sheets. I’m told: Never raise your voice. Speak gently. Submit. Hold your opinion against your lips and when you admit to it, make sure it comes out as a butterfly wing suggestion. Don’t disagree. Don’t undermine someone else’s authority, regardless of whether or not they deserve your respect. Someone touches you, just move away from them. Don’t hit. Don’t talk back. Be like the ruins of Rome, only beautiful if you can’t hear your quiet death.
4. The Needy One. I have heard how others spit when they talk about how she gave you everything and you shoved it back down her throat until she choked on it, until she came back crawling and asked you what she did, until her palms and knees were scraped for want of just a little affection - never be this woman, I’m told, because she’s a joke and the joke is that she dared to have more emotion than you did. The truth is, I’m told, the one who cares less in a partnership is the one who wins. I didn’t know this was a competition.
5. The Cock Tease, certified stripper, how dare that girl look like that and not want me to sleep with her. Lust is always personified as a lady in red with a dress slit up her thigh. Lust is sinful because it’s power, it’s not asking for attention - it’s demanding it. I’m told she is the worst kind of woman, that looking good is supposed to be some kind of shame on her kin. I’m told not to leave the house in such a short skirt, not with a shirt so low, not with a lace back, not with high heels, not dressed like that. My lipstick can’t be too red, my hair can’t be too mussed, I can’t just “turn someone on like that and then leave them wanting.” I mentioned that instant gratification actually ruins our psyche and was told that being led on was “exhausting.” I said that there was a difference between purposefully tricking someone into liking you and just being attractive or friendly. I was told there’s also a difference between coffee and tea but both result in caffeine. I said, “I’ve been turned on in class by the girls I talk to but I didn’t expect anything from them,” and they said, “It’s different, you’re not a man,” but couldn’t explain where that difference was.
6. A Slut, obviously ruined by another person’s touch. It doesn’t matter how many people she’s actually been with, it’s all about the rumors she carries with her. Easy. Harlot. You’ll still try to get with her, you’ll still take her into your bed and kiss her and say things you don’t mean - but you’ll defame her name when you talk to your buddies. My father used to say “A slut is fine for the night, but the virgin is who you take home and marry.” Maybe he didn’t know he was teaching his daughter to hate her sexuality. Maybe he didn’t know that every time she’d be kissed, her whole system would shake until she felt ready to combust, shame and self-hatred shivering against her spine. Maybe he didn’t know she’d disconnect emotions and sex because he always told her, “Boys are different, they won’t care about you.” Nobody said to her that it was okay to experiment. See, the funny thing is, I’m a dancer so I know exactly where my center of gravity is. I know how hard I’ll fall in each direction. Yet out of fear of getting hurt, I won’t let a single person inside of my bed.
7. The Soulmate. Never love romance more than you love being cynical. Never show weakness, never like pink, never think maybe you might find someone nice and settle down with them. Someone will find you, I was told, And if you’re lucky, he’ll put up with you when you start getting old. Never be the woman who believes in happily ever after, never be dumb enough to think maybe someone could love you after all of your mistakes. It has nothing to do with whether or not a family is important to you and you’re in a good place where a relationship would make your life better - you’re not a princess. You don’t get married, you settle.
8. The Girl With Strength, who can outrun everyone and who is stronger than her boyfriend. “See the thing about boys,” says my daddy, “Is that you have to let them win.” I sat at home and read stories about Artemis and wanted to become the huntress, too. I wanted to howl at the moon, I wanted to slay the beasts that bested me, I wanted to rule my kingdom with bloody fists. But girls are never athletes, never supposed to be “built,” regardless of the fact civilizations were constructed on our spines and we made homes in war by the steel of our ribs. Never be strong. We are supposed to wilt.
9. The Lady CEO: because if you choose work over family, are you really a girl? How dare you fight your way to the top through every pair of eyes that bore through your blouse, through every meeting where you were hushed by the sound of someone else talking, through every time someone called you “sweetie,” how dare you yearn for something. Is your husband the stay-at-home one? I can’t imagine how that is going. He’s not a real man, after all. I don’t give it long before the divorce. How dare you decide you’re happy being single. Don’t you know you’re supposed to bear children. Where is your honor? Where is your wisdom? Who cares if you are the leader, the best suited for your position, the quickest-thinking, the one who makes the hardest clients come back again. Don’t you see? Across history, women have been terrible at success. They always lose their man in the end. (When I said, “I would rather be a famous author than a mediocre mother,” I was told, “No, don’t worry, you’ll be a fine mommy.”)
10. THE GIRL I AM: FIRECRACKER AND DON’T YOU FUCKING FORGET IT I’LL RIP YOU TO SHREDS AND I WON’T FUCKING REGRET IT I’M NOT YOUR PRETTY GIRL I’M NOT YOUR ANYTHING I’M PERFECT, MOTHERFUCKER, AND I’M NOT GOING TO GIVE UP WHAT I’M DOING. I DON’T WANT TO BE “LADYLIKE” THAT LITERALLY MEANS NOTHING I’M NOT GOING TO STOP STANDING UP AND DEMANDING WHAT’S COMING TO ME. I’M GONNA BE SOMEBODY. I’M GONNA MAKE THEM REMEMBER ME. I REFUSE TO BE OVERSHADOWED IN HISTORY. I DON’T KNOW WHAT YOU WERE TRYING TO CREATE BUT YOU MADE ME A DRAGON YOU PUT ME IN THE FIRE AND WHEN I STOPPED BURNING I LEARNED HOW TO GLOW DON’T THINK YOU CAN STOP ME YOU CAN’T TAME A TORNADO.In respectful response to a poem tilted, “Ten men women have warned me against becoming." /// r.i.d (via inkskinned)
I feel this belongs here because it comes back to sociological standards for one gender caused by the opposing genders opinions and wants, which will cause a foul societal experience for everyone.
So Australia (or just the state of New South Wales) is closer to legalising medicinal Marijuana than it is gay marriage, with Victoria possibly following.
Getting high with a prescription is more important than marriage equality.
Dubstep Renaissance Cont.
As I call it. I came into dubstep about the middle of this, UKF’s logo was still an image, and not animated, Skrillex was still to release Scary Monsters.
So I guess I’ll start here. My first dubstep song was by Bassnectar, called Timestretch.
Behold! The majesty. This song has the perfect amount of bass, melody, and atmospheric sounds. Midway between Skream and Flux Pavilion. Which is where I should probably show you my first UKF Dubstep song.
Really this is what I think dubstep should sound like. An intro, a drop that flows. I know that Flux gets put into the “brostep” category, but he’s really quite good. Of course, this was at the point when I discovered the yellow UKF, the drum and bass one. Expect a similar post about this. Oh man though, this remix brings back the nostalgia for discovering a whole world of music. You can hear in these two, that unlike early dubstep, it was focused in the middle end of the bass register, sub bass is still there, but what gives it the “wub” is the middle.
Revolution? IDK. Mainstream Success
So lets go to Skrillex. He came out around the same time as Flux and that stuff, posting it in October. One of my friend’s from school showed me this and I was hooked. The growling bass, the heaviness, the melody of the intro, it was good. None of us knew it would leave dubstep as a word most people knew. When I first started, no one knew what dubstep was, but by the end of the Skrillex craze, dubstep was being used in commercials, played on the radio, and comedians were making fun of it during prime time.
Electronic music (or as american record labels call it “edm”) took off at this time. Having been used to back the likes of Beiber and Gaga for too long, dubstep, along with house music, finally began to stand out on their own, but not without losing some of their charm. Where house music got vocalists and basically assimilated itself into existing stuff, dubstep got…heavier. The bros came. The montage videos. Suddenly dubstep was cool, and a year later, Flux Pavilion released this song, which coincidentally shows the new and current UKF logo.
Gone is the intro, more of a hook now, and it almost goes directly into MAKE YOUR HEAD BOP REALLY HARD mode. Which don’t get me wrong, I like this too, but it got out of hand. Skrillex with “ruffneck bass” and stuff by Cookie Monsta, and not to mention early Knife Party. It all got ruined by the people it attracted. Go to the youtube comments. *cringe*. Dubstep for about 2 year became a contest to see who could deliver the hard drop or the sickest or dirtiest or whateverest filth.
Dubstep Today (as of 10:30ish on Tuesday 22 July, 2014.)
The mainstream popularity of dubstep seems to have died down, probably around the end of 2012? Around there, somewhere. So what we’re left with here today is a great field. There’s chillstep, which harkens back to earlier stuff with its atmosphere, notable examples would be Blackmill, some Mitis, Tom Day, Synkro and many more. The channels MOR and Mrsuicidesheep can help you find many more.
Then you got epic stuff, the likes of songs like Gemini - Still Here, and Seven Lions - The Truth. This genre focuses more on energy and uplifting melodies, the half time “step” part often finds itself taking a backseat, but its there still.
You still have Flux, who has really diversified with things like Starlight.
Dubchestral music, which infuses epic classical sounds with heavy drops, Instrumental Core I think is really the only one doing that.
As such, I’ve made a playlist detailing these on youtube, which can be found here.
Alright. So I’ve been thinking about musical evolution. So I thought, “hey, why don’t I make a little thing about the progress of a genre and then get tons of hate mail saying I got it all wrong?”
I thought, “great!”. So I give you a subjective history of dubstep. This is what I know and I welcome any contributions or potential corrections/problems people have for/with this.
WUBWUBWUB PART ONE: The DubDub
Dubstep has its origins in a variety of genres, not limited to rave, industrial, and early drum n bass. But the part of it that makes it “dub”step is the dub. Dub came from when reggae djs would quite simply record recordings of songs, lengthen them, and then maybe add some beats.
WUB WUB: Chill Beginnings
Dubstep as a defined genre really started in the 90s, work done by artists like El-B who started in 1996 but has since gone inactive. There is a cd out there called The Roots of Dubstep. I plan on listening to it all. The stuff is really minimalistic and dark. A bit too repetitive for my tastes but I still like it nonetheless.
Evolution: The BBC and Dubstep
One of the reasons why England is cooler than America is their radio. The radio is more or less the same nationally as far as I can tell, and BBC Radio One has and had DJs really close to the club scene there. This is where many dubstep artists, like Skream, but also Benga and others played some stuff. Stuff from other genres began to be incorporated it following the success of Skream and other producers, building off the 2-step infused stuff that El-B had been working on. Notable artists include Skream, MRK1, and Kode 9.
Late 2000s, 2010-11
I consider this the dubstep renaissance. But this is when I came into it. Early dubstep was minimalistic, at least what I’ve heard of it.
Dubstep has began to infect mainstream artists, Britney Spear’s song Freakshow comes to mind, although the youtube comments will insist otherwise. This is when so many good remixes happened though, remixes of La Roux, who got treatment on In for the Kill by SKream, I’m not Your Toy by Nero, and Bulletproof by Zinc. This is also when Bassnectar was doing good stuff that I like to “dub” (I’ll show myself out) “earthy crunchystep”. It is also important to realize that this is when the famed UKF Dubstep channel began posting. In fact, to hear the evolution of the genre, just play through their uploads if you have the time. Its a long journey.
Can’t go through here without posting Mt Eden. This is one of the best songs from the era. Perfect heaviness. Perfect darkness. A good drop. Ungh so good.
Now of course, dubstep is far more varied, which is why another post will come tomorrow, where I will discuss dubstep thats most current, including the rise of brostep and the likes of Skrillex, plus fusion genres and just some of my favs. In the meantime, please look over this playlist, which will have all the videos here plus a few more, in order of the sound evolution at least to my ears. Enjoy!
THEY’RE BACK WHY DID NO ONE TELL ME THEY’RE BACK.
Opening five seconds and I’m in. Then I get an epic drop and then if that wasn’t good enough, it goes heavy. This makes me want to get together a electronic music party somewhere.